Last week our car had its front window shot out (yes, as in, with a gun) while parked in the street in front of our house. At least 10 other neighbors had their cars hit as well and we had to call the police and fill out police reports and we were all late for our morning commitments.
No houses or people were hit, so that’s good. And just four hours and fifty dollars later, we had a new window put in.
It’s the city. These things happen.
What is God’s Country?
I grew up in rural west Michigan and figured I had no choice but to live in a rural setting forever. Afterall, everyone called it “God’s country” and I certainly didn’t want to live anywhere God wasn’t.
A thousand twists and turns later and Paul and I find ourselves living in the heart of Grand Rapids. Not the worst neighborhood of our city, but (clearly) not the best either.
I realize that if one has the resources to choose where they live, debating over which locale is best (city, suburbs, country) is completely arbitrary because it’s purely personal preference. We didn’t have to move to the city. We could have stayed in the burbs and we could have stayed at our “big dream house” that we had built in the country. We chose city life.
And now, we have found a spiritual-ness to city life that proves God dwells powerfully here, too.
10 Ways We See God in the City:
1 – In the city, we have met people from all kinds of different race, religion, ethnic and socio-economic backgrounds from our own. Whenever I hear someone (usually caucasian) ranting about issues/problems with blacks, gays, Muslims, the poor, immigrants, pro-choice, pro-life, atheists, Democrats, Republicans, etc. I will ask them, “Do you know any? Like, do you HANG OUT with anyone from (that particular people group)?” If they reply “Well, not exactly”, I won’t listen any further. If we do not know people who are different from us, we do not have the right to talk about what “they” are like, what “they” do or think or feel. When we made close friends with many Muslims in Morocco, our entire view shifted from what we previously thought or believed about Islam. It is imperative to truly KNOW the “other” before commenting (or worse, ranting) about them and their perceived impact on your own existence. I believe we’re extremely misguided to derive our opinions from Tucker Carlson or Rachel Maddow.
2 – In the city, we drive down bumpy, neglected roads as we take in broken street lights, graffiti, and panhandlers. These serve as a constant reminder that the world is not a perfect place and no matter how hard we strive to curate perfection in our lives (whether by beautifully perfect homes, perfectly edited Instagram feeds, perfectly manicured lawns, etc. ) the truth is, PERFECTION is for heaven and this world is broken. Most of the world suffers unspeakable pain, hurt, loss and brokenness and we MUST NOT forget that truth. For me, I need the daily reminder the city offers.
3 – In the city, we see people. People are seen out walking, hanging out at bus stops or street corners, or just visiting one another on their front porches. People in the city don’t drive their cars into their houses (as once described to me by a little Moroccan boy who couldn’t fathom the phenomenon of “garages”), but instead, we park on the street and SEE one another with every coming and going. When Paul and I were younger we sought to escape others, now we seek them and the city just works better for that.
4 – We hear church bells in the city.
5 – I can hear my neighbors conversations if both our homes have the windows open. Living in the city means you watch your language more carefully. It’s like having a built-in accountability partner.
6 – We have nuns playing soccer with the students across the street during Catholic-school recess. I don’t care who you are – if you’re having a bad day, watching nuns play soccer with little kids will just make you happy. It’s like having Julie Andrews out your front window.
7 – We may get our cars shot at once and awhile, but you know what? It brought us all out onto the street that morning and we learned the names of a few neighbors we hadn’t met and we all banded together with common loss and concern and empathy. It’s through the hardships that we truly bond with one another. I don’t believe in seeking hardships, but I also don’t think cocooning ourselves in an attempt to avoid life’s hardships is the life God desires for us either.
8 – Living amongst those from a lower socio-economic status serves as a daily reminder to not become lovers of money. It’s so dang easy for us to believe we need more, more, more. But when I am surrounded by those who have less, I have to really wrestle with my spending habits and discern if I really need those new throw pillows more than Julie down the street needs diapers for her children.
9 – Living in the city you do not need to waste your money on marijuana. If the situation calls for it, you can just stroll over to the park and inhale a big enough whiff to get a little buzz for free.
10 – In the city, you can get REAL tacos from little hole-in-the-wall taco stands that serve REAL corn-flour tortilla shells. You’ll never be able to eat a flour tortilla shell again (Gross. Just gross.)
But is it SAFE?
I don’t particularly care for people driving down my street shooting at our cars (or shooting at anything, for that matter), but I LOVE what Mrs. Beaver said to Lucy in “The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe” when Lucy asked if Aslan was safe:
She said, “Of course He isn’t safe, child, but He is good.”
#9, lol.
All this is good Cindy. You and Paul have great attitudes.
We are constantly repeating this mantra over and over: “People are more important than things. People are more important than things. Now, whenever “things” get destroyed, well, it no longer seems to matter.
Awesome. I love your content and how you tell your story!
Thanks for the sweet note. It means a lot!
Amen and amen, Cindy. Tell it.
Hey Kathy! Miss you!!!
“….PERFECTION is for Heaven and this world is broken.”
Taking that one with me today….thanks!
Love you, Donna!
You are such an inspiration! I need to ditch the flour tortillas, stop parking in the garage, and play soccer in the park! Thank you for reminding us of the good things that surround us if we take the time to open our eyes, ears, and hearts!
Thanks, Melissa! Whenever you wanna play soccer with nuns, hit me up!!!
Love, love, love this!
Thanks, Robin! I always appreciate your feedback! Writing is my muse but also my nemesis and sometimes the latter gets too much attention and I get discouraged. Thanks for always cheering me on!
Love this Cindy! I can relate to almost everything- parking on the street – listening to my neighbors just over the fence – but shoot- no nuns playing soccer (I love Julie Andrews) and no whiffs of pot 😂 but we do have an abandoned party store next door and plenty of fire trucks zooming by with sirens blaring day and night. Thanks for another great post 😊😊!
I love that you love the city as much as I do. Yet another thing that makes us soul sisters!
I loved our time in the city for many of these same reasons. One more I would add is the sirens…upon hearing, I would stop what I was doing and pray. I felt very connected to the people and community this way as I imagined their burdens and worries. Anyway, you just brought back some wonderful memories and stirred up some retired longings. Thank you. And, your ending is brilliant.
Thanks, Cheryl! I totally agree about the sirens as I’ll often do the same thing! Even when I hear a car alarm (probably daily), I’ll pray for the people who are having to deal with that hassle. Sirens and alarms can be alarming, or we can choose to make them a “Call to Prayer”!
Yup. Just yup.
Love you, Wendy – for our shared love of people and cities and for a million other reasons!
Great blog!! Your house in the city has so many stories within its walls and to tell. ❤️
Thanks, Sarah!
Your writing and perspective makes me laugh, think hard, and nod, “Yes, yes” every time I read one of your blogs. The line from The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe is one of my favorites! Thanks, Cindy!
(sorry it took me so long to get to reading this one!)
I just love you, Kathy!