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Comments on: Reboot: The Beauty of not being good enough – (Getting "Cut" from the team) https://cindydeboer.com/2019/08/29/the-beauty-of-not-being-good-enough-getting-cut-from-the-team-2/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=the-beauty-of-not-being-good-enough-getting-cut-from-the-team-2 Tue, 08 Dec 2020 21:04:47 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: Cindy DeBoer https://cindydeboer.com/2019/08/29/the-beauty-of-not-being-good-enough-getting-cut-from-the-team-2/#comment-363 Wed, 11 Sep 2019 02:52:14 +0000 http://cindydeboer.com/?p=160#comment-363 In reply to Mitch Bakker.

Okay – so this is UNCANNY! Your daughter’s name is GRACE, too??? And she ALSO got cut from the varsity volleyball team??? I knew God had given me a word to share with all of those who have suffered a painful loss like this – but WOW, this is REALLY a direct hit for your family, eh? I hope, in some small way, it gave your daughter some peace and hope for the future. My Grace is now about to graduate from college (I wrote this piece a few years back) and she is soaring in her love for social work, immigration, justice, and peace-building efforts. She spent one summer working in a dreamy job as a life-guard and getting a killer tan, another summer she spent back-packing in Europe, another one working for an organization working to expose the sex-trafficking epidemic in Grand Rapids: All things she’d NEVER have been able to do if she stuck with volleyball. She lives in California. She surfs, she sings and plays her guitar, she spends her weekends in Tijuana working with the marginalized, AND, on occasion, she will play a little intramural volleyball (she’s still got it!). But the bottom line is this: She’s living her best life and it has nothing to do with volleyball!!! Please, please let your Grace know – she has been CHOSEN for a team (maybe yet to be determined) but it will, no doubt, be a better team and will give her a blessed, better life. I promise.

]]> By: Mitch Bakker https://cindydeboer.com/2019/08/29/the-beauty-of-not-being-good-enough-getting-cut-from-the-team-2/#comment-362 Thu, 05 Sep 2019 01:18:18 +0000 http://cindydeboer.com/?p=160#comment-362 Oh my goodness. This blog was so good for us. Believe it or not our daughter, also named Grace, was cut from the varsity volleyball team this fall.
We could identify with this situation and the happy ending you discovered.
Thanks for sharing this! So good.

]]> By: Cindy DeBoer https://cindydeboer.com/2019/08/29/the-beauty-of-not-being-good-enough-getting-cut-from-the-team-2/#comment-361 Tue, 03 Sep 2019 04:34:57 +0000 http://cindydeboer.com/?p=160#comment-361 In reply to Kari Bergman.

I love you, Kari. Motherhood is the best. And sometimes the worst. But mostly the best. And you are gonna KILL IT because of your enormous heart and your incredible ability to love so well!!! Godspeed to you in your mothering journey!!!

]]> By: Cindy DeBoer https://cindydeboer.com/2019/08/29/the-beauty-of-not-being-good-enough-getting-cut-from-the-team-2/#comment-360 Tue, 03 Sep 2019 04:31:50 +0000 http://cindydeboer.com/?p=160#comment-360 In reply to Sherry.

Thanks, Sherry! I love that insight – “Why not me?” – Such a better approach to life especially when we’re faced with seemingly insurmountable challenges! But why wouldn’t God ask me to do hard things? Of course, He would and He does! So we pray for courage and resilience. And we press on. Thank-you, my fellow comrade in the writing world!!! xoxo

]]> By: Sherry https://cindydeboer.com/2019/08/29/the-beauty-of-not-being-good-enough-getting-cut-from-the-team-2/#comment-359 Sun, 01 Sep 2019 17:56:12 +0000 http://cindydeboer.com/?p=160#comment-359 Hi Cindy, more beautiful and insightful writing from you, my dear friend and warrior. It brought to mind to me the question we so often ask in “Why me” when we should be asking “why not me?” I used to bury myself in why me and it wasn’t working for me at all! “Why not me” empowers and makes me feel challenged and inspired. Exactly what reading your inspirational words did for me.

]]> By: Kari Bergman https://cindydeboer.com/2019/08/29/the-beauty-of-not-being-good-enough-getting-cut-from-the-team-2/#comment-358 Fri, 30 Aug 2019 17:03:48 +0000 http://cindydeboer.com/?p=160#comment-358 Crying over here. Thank you for sharing this beautiful transformation in perspective. You are a gift. I love seeing what motherhood can look like with you.

]]> By: Diane Veltema https://cindydeboer.com/2019/08/29/the-beauty-of-not-being-good-enough-getting-cut-from-the-team-2/#comment-357 Thu, 18 Feb 2016 23:34:29 +0000 http://cindydeboer.com/?p=160#comment-357 Cindy
I wish everyone that has been cut from a team, let go from a job or whatever it might be would have a chance to read this. I will definatly share this with any one I know if they find themselves in this situation. Thanks for sharing

]]> By: Cindy DeBoer https://cindydeboer.com/2019/08/29/the-beauty-of-not-being-good-enough-getting-cut-from-the-team-2/#comment-356 Wed, 14 Oct 2015 18:33:02 +0000 http://cindydeboer.com/?p=160#comment-356 In reply to Carol.

And God bless you, too, Carol! These years with our kids under our roof are so fleeting! How could we ever feel bad/sad for having MORE time with them??? Although it is a heartache to feel rejected, it is certainly a blessing to reclaim so much of their time! I feel like I’m getting to know my daughter again… that’s been so incredibly rich!

]]> By: Carol https://cindydeboer.com/2019/08/29/the-beauty-of-not-being-good-enough-getting-cut-from-the-team-2/#comment-355 Wed, 14 Oct 2015 18:22:15 +0000 http://cindydeboer.com/?p=160#comment-355 Thank you for this Cindy, my senior daughter was cut this fall from the volleyball team as well so I can relate to every word in this story. Recently I have been so thankful to God for giving us back our daughter as we’ve had so much more time together this fall. I know next fall when she is off at college I will be so thankful for the time and memories we made because she wasn’t playing. You wrote just how I’ve been feeling. God Bless.

]]> By: Colleen Bryan https://cindydeboer.com/2019/08/29/the-beauty-of-not-being-good-enough-getting-cut-from-the-team-2/#comment-354 Sun, 11 Oct 2015 01:30:46 +0000 http://cindydeboer.com/?p=160#comment-354 I’m so glad she was “chosen” and can spend more time with you! It’s been great to see her having fun with friends these last few weeks, too. I know how difficult it is when our teenage girls feel rejected. But I believe that things happen for a reason. You’re all so smart to look at the positives!

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