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Comments on: A Lament for Heidi https://cindydeboer.com/2018/01/08/the-smell-of-death-a-lament-for-heidi/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=the-smell-of-death-a-lament-for-heidi Tue, 10 Jan 2023 02:56:34 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: Blaine Newhouse https://cindydeboer.com/2018/01/08/the-smell-of-death-a-lament-for-heidi/#comment-894 Tue, 10 Jan 2023 02:56:34 +0000 http://cindydeboer.com/?p=783#comment-894 Blessed to read your words again – even as we continue the work of grieving. Your wrestling with the why and where of God in the crucible of suffering, loss and uncertainty is honest, raw and truthful. In every way, it reflects the Biblical tradition of lament. No room for lament in the prosperity gospel. Yet a faith that has depth and perspective always includes such experiences and reflections. Miss so much of the world as it was with Heidi. We join you in tightening our grip on a hope that will not ultimately dissapoint but give us the grace, courage and wisdom to enter into the suffering of others with gentleness and compassion.

]]> By: Blaine Newhouse https://cindydeboer.com/2018/01/08/the-smell-of-death-a-lament-for-heidi/#comment-893 Tue, 10 Jan 2023 02:34:44 +0000 http://cindydeboer.com/?p=783#comment-893 Blessed to read your words again

]]> By: Cindy DeBoer https://cindydeboer.com/2018/01/08/the-smell-of-death-a-lament-for-heidi/#comment-892 Sat, 07 Jan 2023 05:14:46 +0000 http://cindydeboer.com/?p=783#comment-892 In reply to Jenna.

Thank you for sharing, Jenna. So sorry for the loss of your mother – and all of your relatives who should still be here. It is just too much work – totally futile and exhausting work – to try to wrap up our grief and place a nice, tidy bow on the top. It’s never going to be like that. Heidi left this earth 5 years ago on January 9 and I’m still shaking my head in disbelief. I still am at a loss to explain the pain and suffering her two precious children still carry with them. I still regularly lament: “Lord, I just don’t understand!” And yet…. And yet, somehow each day, every day, the sun comes up and God says to me: “You’re still here. Get up. Go live for me and don’t worry anymore about the timing of the whole thing. No one is ever going to figure that part out. You’re here. Get up and love others as I have loved you.” And so, what choice do we have, Jenna? Really, there is no choice for me. I wake up and I say, “I’m still sad. I still don’t get you, God. But I’m gonna get up and trust you anyway.”

It’s a crazy paradox, this Christian life – to trust that which we cannot see with that which doesn’t make sense. But I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Praying for you right now, my friend. Praying that even amidst your sorrow you never let go of the anchor of our souls.

]]> By: Jenna https://cindydeboer.com/2018/01/08/the-smell-of-death-a-lament-for-heidi/#comment-891 Sat, 07 Jan 2023 03:48:19 +0000 http://cindydeboer.com/?p=783#comment-891 ]]> I shared this article 4 years ago and it’s been on my mind again as I sat my first beside vigil for my mom this fall. I’m 36 and she was my last living parent or grandparent. While your words are beautiful and comforting, I appreciate that they are real. The journey of grief is not easy and rarely looks like that perfect Christian story. It is so often filled with laments of “I just don’t understand.”
Thank you for reminding me that even in the midst of our chaos and questioning, God’s Word has the answers that can provide peace and comfort. ❤️

]]> By: Cindy DeBoer https://cindydeboer.com/2018/01/08/the-smell-of-death-a-lament-for-heidi/#comment-267 Tue, 19 Mar 2019 02:40:06 +0000 http://cindydeboer.com/?p=783#comment-267 In reply to Rebekah LaCasse.

Well said, Rebekah. Just tools for Kingdom building…. tools for Kingdom building…. I like that.

]]> By: Rebekah LaCasse https://cindydeboer.com/2018/01/08/the-smell-of-death-a-lament-for-heidi/#comment-266 Tue, 19 Mar 2019 02:19:04 +0000 http://cindydeboer.com/?p=783#comment-266 After I lost my Dad several years ago I really struggled with ‘#blessed’. Thank you so much for your post. I now understand that God’s blessings are eternal blessings, and all the other good things he gives us are just tools to use for His Kingdom!!!

]]> By: Cindy DeBoer https://cindydeboer.com/2018/01/08/the-smell-of-death-a-lament-for-heidi/#comment-265 Tue, 20 Mar 2018 01:10:10 +0000 http://cindydeboer.com/?p=783#comment-265 In reply to Krista Nonemaker.

Thanks so much, Krista! I had not heard of Rachel Barkey – but was blown away by her video! Thanks for sharing! I agree – there is a supernatural presence when someone can take what the world calls a tragedy, and truly call it a gift from God. Blessings are what we “take away” from all that happens to us in life. It’s not the ACTUAL happening itself. What a testimony to be able to look past the thing that seems “insurmountable” and see Jesus – who’s telling us over and over and over: “Mount UP! You got this!” I’m learning, learning, learning, as we walk through this grieving process of Heidi’s passing. Thanks again, Krista! Peace to you!

]]> By: Krista Nonemaker https://cindydeboer.com/2018/01/08/the-smell-of-death-a-lament-for-heidi/#comment-264 Thu, 01 Mar 2018 19:00:28 +0000 http://cindydeboer.com/?p=783#comment-264 Dear Cindy, I read your blog several weeks ago and have been thinking about it ever since. You pointed out some thoughts on the Sermon on the Mount, what is good and what is a blessing. Some of this is new insight to me, or maybe it is just the way you phrased it. I have been blessed. I am so sorry that you lost your dear sister and I am thankful that you can share such important scriptural thoughts with us. Well, over the weeks I also have been wondering if you ever heard Rachel Barkey, from Canada give a talk to a group of women about her imminent death from cancer? It is truly phenomenal in that I think it borders on supernatural as the Lord used her mightly. I highly recommend listening and watching her video which you can find at this link. Let me know what you think of this. There is also a facebook group about her and people comment about their loved ones who have died of cancer. The first link is the video and the second link is the facebook page (if you are on fb)
http://deathisnotdying.com/fullvideo/ and fb group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/95413198833/

]]> By: chrisbriscoe10 https://cindydeboer.com/2018/01/08/the-smell-of-death-a-lament-for-heidi/#comment-263 Tue, 06 Feb 2018 02:01:31 +0000 http://cindydeboer.com/?p=783#comment-263 Wow, such are fresh and enlightening message, (so sorry, for your fourth loss) about what God’s dictionary looks like. Really, so true. I wonder if many Christians will not recognise “God’s Dictionary” when they peruse his library in heaven.

]]> By: Margaret Murphy https://cindydeboer.com/2018/01/08/the-smell-of-death-a-lament-for-heidi/#comment-262 Sat, 27 Jan 2018 05:12:01 +0000 http://cindydeboer.com/?p=783#comment-262 In reply to Cindy DeBoer.

Today was a very hard day. I have saved many scripture promises to my phone over this last year as we dealt with his glioblastoma, and today I went through my phone and deleted them. I do feel abandoned by the Lord. chuck always preached “ask, seek, knock, and expect the Lord to do mighty things”…chuck taught faith , trust, and obedience.. always. … I got a silent Jesus.
For now, I feel sad. I pray this phase is grief and pray for His light to brighten my darkness. chuck’s obituary is on http://www.goldfinchfuneral Home.com… Murrells Inlet, SC.
Charles h murphy lll… there is an article on him in Christianity today. A wonderful Christian soldier who was “done too soon”
Margaret

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